Finances In Ghanaian Relationships

Do Men Control The finances In Our Ghanaian Homes ?

Questions

1. Do most ghanaian marriages fail because of money?
2. Do we have women in Ghana That are "Bread Winners" of the family?
3. Would or have you dated a Sugar Mummy/ sugar daddy?
4. Does the Ghanaman Love women That are Independent?

questions and suggestions welcomed

In this post I want to talk about how money is handled in ghanaian relationships. This includes marriage, engaged couples, Boyfriend/girlfriend or even family settings. Back in the days when I was a teenager, I had friends that accepted money from their bf's. I was really scared to to accept money from a guy.. and people call you a bad girl for accepting money from men...but I am old now so.
I grew up with my auntie who was married to a soldier. Every month when he is given his pay, my auntie gets a share. That money is used for upkeeping of the house for the whole month. She does not get any other cash so she has to spend the money wisely. Normally , we just go and shop in bulk for food stuff to make sure there is enough for the month.
My aunts husband was very strict so my aunt has to do accounting about the money and tell him where the money went and how it was spent.
My point is that, in their relationship, my aunt was not working so she is always waiting for payday to come. On pay day, we get to eat chicken soup and fufu. lol
There are times when the money is squandered before the month ends, in this situation my aunt goes and borrows from her friends. She would not let the soldier man know the money is all gone or else he will kick her ass.

I had another auntie, Betty Mills, ( My Idol) She has it all. Her own company, Her own House, Two German Cars, 1 son and no Husband...... but a boyfriend, whom she bully's alot. She calls the shots. The boyfriend lives at my aunts house, my aunt drives him to work and picks him up.
Aunt betty was married once... Her ex-husband, a very accomplished man did not treat her very well. His family did not like her so she ask for a divorce

I would like to hear from you guys, what you think of the financial situations in Ghana.
Please all ideas welcome so I can come back and finish this blog
Thank you for reading
God bless

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